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My Ex's Best Friend
Machine Gun Kelly and blackbear's "My Ex's Best Friend": Pop-Punk Revival and a Year-Long Chart Run "My Ex's Best Friend" by Machine Gun Kelly and blackbear …
01 The Story
Machine Gun Kelly and blackbear's "My Ex's Best Friend": Pop-Punk Revival and a Year-Long Chart Run
"My Ex's Best Friend" by Machine Gun Kelly and blackbear is one of the more commercially durable tracks of the pop-punk revival that defined much of Machine Gun Kelly's commercial breakthrough period. The song debuted on the Billboard Hot 100 on August 22, 2020, at position 82, and spent an extraordinary 52 weeks on the chart, ultimately peaking at number 20 during the week of May 22, 2021. The year-long chart run was driven almost entirely by sustained streaming momentum that accumulated over months rather than peaking quickly through radio airplay.
Machine Gun Kelly, born Colson Baker on April 22, 1990, in Houston, Texas, though raised across multiple cities including Denver, Chicago, and Cleveland, had established himself through most of the 2010s as a rapper with significant cult following but inconsistent mainstream commercial performance. His mixtape career generated loyal fanbases in Cleveland and nationally, and he signed to Bad Boy Records and then Interscope Records, releasing albums including Lace Up (2012) and General Admission (2015). His profile was boosted by a highly publicized feud with Eminem in 2018, which, regardless of the artistic outcome of that exchange, kept him in public conversation and introduced him to listeners who had not previously been aware of his work.
The pivot to pop-punk that would define MGK's commercial breakthrough began with the album Hotel Diablo in 2019, which incorporated elements of alternative rock into his predominantly rap framework. The full commitment to the genre came with Tickets to My Downfall in 2020, the album on which "My Ex's Best Friend" appeared. Tickets to My Downfall debuted at number one on the Billboard 200, making it the first pop-punk album to reach the top position on that chart in approximately a decade, a commercial achievement that confirmed the genre's resurgent mainstream appeal. The album was produced by Travis Barker of Blink-182, whose collaboration with MGK was central to the production's credibility within the pop-punk tradition.
blackbear, born Matthew Tyler Musto on November 27, 1990, in Merritt Island, Florida, is a singer-songwriter and producer who had built a following through a series of EP releases and album projects that positioned him in the emo-pop and alternative pop space. He had previously contributed as a songwriter to projects including Justin Bieber's Believe album, and his solo work had accumulated substantial streaming numbers. His vocal and songwriting contribution to "My Ex's Best Friend" matched the pop-punk aesthetic effectively, and his melodic sensibility complemented MGK's more aggressive delivery.
"My Ex's Best Friend" was produced by Travis Barker alongside MGK, with additional production contributions reflecting the album's collaborative approach. The production combines distorted electric guitars, driving drum performance, and bass elements that clearly reference the pop-punk of the early 2000s, particularly the Blink-182 sound that Barker had helped define. Barker's drumming on the album was a major selling point for pop-punk fans who recognized in his involvement both a credentialing function and a genuine musical contribution.
The lyrical content of "My Ex's Best Friend" addresses the disorienting experience of developing romantic feelings for someone in the social orbit of a previous relationship, specifically the best friend of a former partner. The scenario is the kind of emotionally tangled, slightly transgressive situation that pop-punk has always specialized in depicting: the confusion of social obligations, romantic feelings, and the residual entanglements of past relationships that define much of young adult social life.
The song's chart trajectory was unusually gradual. After debuting at 82 in August 2020, it spent the fall climbing through the chart, reaching the 40s and 30s by late 2020, and then continuing to rise through the winter and spring of 2021 before hitting its peak of 20 in May 2021, almost nine months after its initial chart entry. This kind of sustained, slow-build chart performance is characteristic of tracks that operate primarily through streaming platforms, where algorithmic recommendations and playlist placements can sustain listener discovery over extended periods. The song accumulated over 148 million YouTube views across the period following its release, a number consistent with its sustained streaming presence.
Radio airplay was a component of the song's commercial performance, particularly on alternative radio formats, where MGK's pop-punk identity generated significant playlist placement. The track also appeared on mainstream pop radio, reflecting the crossover appeal of the pop-punk revival to audiences that had not previously been part of the genre's core demographic.
Pop-Punk Revival Context and Long-Term Significance
The success of "My Ex's Best Friend" was one data point in a broader commercial conversation about the pop-punk revival of the early 2020s. Artists including Olivia Rodrigo, whose debut single "drivers license" arrived in January 2021 and dominated the chart for weeks, were participating in a similar aesthetic reclamation of pop-punk and emo sonic traditions. The combined commercial performance of these artists confirmed that there was a substantial audience for melodically direct, emotionally expressive guitar-driven pop music among listeners who had not been born when the original pop-punk wave was current. MGK's specific contribution to this revival, the decision to abandon a credible rap career for a full genre pivot, was commercially validated by "My Ex's Best Friend" and the album it appeared on.
02 Song Meaning
Forbidden Attraction and Social Entanglement in "My Ex's Best Friend"
"My Ex's Best Friend" navigates the particular emotional territory of a romantic attraction that violates the unwritten codes governing post-relationship social conduct. The scenario it describes, developing feelings for someone who exists in the social orbit defined by a previous relationship, is presented not as a deliberate transgression but as an accident: something that happens before the narrator has the opportunity to consider whether it should happen. The song's emotional appeal derives partly from this sense of helpless drift into complicated territory.
The pop-punk tradition that the track inhabits has always been particularly skilled at articulating the specific confusions and embarrassments of young adult social life, the situations in which feelings and social obligations conflict, in which desire and propriety pull in opposite directions, and in which the narrator finds himself in circumstances that are simultaneously of his own making and inexplicably outside his control. "My Ex's Best Friend" is a perfect specimen of this tradition, presenting a scenario that is immediately recognizable to anyone who has navigated the overlapping social circles that form after a relationship ends.
The "best friend" figure in the song occupies an interesting symbolic position. As the best friend of the narrator's ex-partner, she exists in a zone of social prohibition: pursuing her would potentially violate both the implicit expectations of the ex-partner and the codes of loyalty that structure friendships. Yet she is also someone the narrator has genuine access to, someone who has been present in his social life precisely because of the relationship that created the prohibition. The song captures the peculiar combination of proximity and inaccessibility that characterizes this scenario.
The production's pop-punk energy, with its distorted guitars and driving rhythm section, creates an emotional environment of urgency and forward momentum that mirrors the narrator's inability to slow down or think carefully about his situation. Pop-punk, as a musical genre, often sounds like it is moving faster than it can manage, which is an accurate sonic representation of adolescent and young adult emotional experience, where feelings arrive before the cognitive tools for managing them have fully developed. The production pace communicates the narrator's loss of composure as effectively as the lyrics do.
The collaboration between Machine Gun Kelly and blackbear on the track creates a dual perspective that enriches the song's emotional content. While the track functions as a unified first-person statement, the presence of two distinct vocal identities, MGK's rougher-edged delivery and blackbear's smoother melodic approach, suggests different modes of experiencing the same situation. The combination is not quite call and response, but the shifting between voices creates a sense of internal dialogue, the narrator arguing with himself about whether to pursue the attraction, about whether the social cost is acceptable, about what kind of person he is being in this situation.
The use of the word "ex" in the title is significant. The song is not simply about falling for someone new; it is about the way in which past relationships continue to structure present experience and social possibility. The ex-partner, who does not appear as an active presence in the song, nonetheless shapes everything about the narrator's situation, defining who is available and unavailable, which attractions are socially sanctioned and which are not. This lingering presence of a past relationship in a present emotional situation is one of the song's most emotionally accurate elements.
The pop-punk revival of which "My Ex's Best Friend" was a part has been read by many commentators as a generational phenomenon: younger listeners encountering, for the first time, a sonic and emotional vocabulary that their millennial predecessors had used to process similar experiences in the early 2000s. The resonance of this vocabulary with younger audiences suggests that the emotional experiences it addresses, the social tangles and romantic confusions of young adulthood, are sufficiently universal to transcend the specific historical moment that produced the original wave of the genre.
The song's 52-week chart presence confirms that it found a sustained audience rather than a momentary one, which suggests that listeners were returning to it repeatedly over the course of a year. This kind of sustained engagement is usually evidence of a track that has attached itself to specific memories or emotional states for individual listeners, functioning not just as a song but as a marker of a period or a feeling. Songs that achieve this function often become genuinely personal to their listeners in ways that are not reducible to their chart performance or critical reception.
Genre Authenticity and the MGK Pivot
The critical conversation around "My Ex's Best Friend" was often as much about Machine Gun Kelly's genre transition as about the song itself. Skeptics questioned whether a former rapper's adoption of pop-punk could be authentic or whether it represented a calculated commercial decision. Supporters argued that the quality of the music, including the genuine enthusiasm of the performances and the craft evident in the songwriting and production, was sufficient evidence of authentic investment. The song's sustained commercial performance across a full year suggested that audiences were making their own judgment independent of the critical debate, finding in the track something that answered to their actual emotional experience rather than to abstract arguments about authenticity.
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